12 Days of Xmas: Self-love

My really good WP galpal Sindy, from http://bluebutterfliesandme.wordpress.com, launched a 12 Days of Christmas prompt to celebrate our blogging connections and share our positive images for the coming year. You can read the first posts in the series here:

Three Wise Men (http://bluebutterfliesandme.wordpress.com/2013/12/14/three-wise-men/)

12 Days of Christmas: Magic (http://holley4734.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/12-days-of-christmas-magic/)

I won’t lie to you, this past year, and especially the second half, was not an easy one for me. I am all too happy to move on to 2014 🙂 . But before the New Year comes, let me share with you some valuable lessons I learnt in the past six months. Why else would I be going through challenges in life than to learn from them…

When I feel that the amount of things and the number of people needing my attention are overwhelming, I really need to step back and keep myself centered. What happened instead is that I tried to be present for everything and everybody, giving more than I was comfortable with or was able to give. And… I lost myself. Literally! I became too immersed with other people’s energy fields, I dispersed my energy across different realms, scattered so much that I hardly had any energy left to pick myself up. I had to take a total break from any client work and work on getting myself back step by step. Work in progress 🙂 .

When I feel like somebody is being demanding of me, I need to be loving with my boundary, and find my place to say yes when it feels right, and to say no when it doesn’t, with love. As a healer, I tend to believe that I have a great capacity and much responsibility to help any person who crosses paths with me. Yet I have seen over and over again that if I cannot do something for somebody, there is always another perfect person to help them. Things always work out! I can be compassionate, loving and understanding without necessarily having to do shamanic work with everybody.

When I am asked to come back to humanity and be part of the collective, I can step back into being human by unifying my body and my spirit. I have been very spiritual for a long time and have enjoyed many spiritual pursuits. Whenever I do shamanic work more intensely, I sooner or later start to dwell into spiritual realms. So much so that I become disconnected from my immediate environment. Part of my shadow is that I do not want to belong, live or be on this planet. Yet I know deep down, in my heart of hearts, that I want to be here, that I need to be here, and that my presence is required in many different ways than just shamanic work. So I am learning to love my body, my emotions, my physical self in a conscious way.

I am offering you lovely fellow humans, as a Xmas gift, a Self-Love poem-ritual to feel and celebrate the beautiful bodies we all share that make us the perfect humans we are:

xmas

My perrrrrfect little humans

Love Yourself Always A Little Bit More

Touch your chest
Feel your heart beat
Brush over your nipples
They will harden
Timidly with pleasure
Knowing you love them
passionately.

Give yourself
a deep sigh of approval
For the beautiful body
That carries you freely
With love and vigor.

Caress gently your face
Sweep over your eyes
Giving them the nicest makeup
they could ever have.
Touch your nose
Draw your lips
with your fingers.
Run them through your hair
Let them smell it,
Let them feel the silky sensation.

Love your arms
With each other
Give yourself a big
Cuddly hug.
Let them caress your back,
Your neck and your shoulders.

Make gentle circles
Around your belly
Squeeze sensually
Your hips and your thighs,
Like the hottest lover
You can imagine.

Open your legs,
Swiftly with passion
Dig deep for lost treasures.
Moving down your thighs
Circle your knees
Rub your calfs,
Massage your feet
With the passion of
a foot fetishist.

Then slap yourself
On the but lovingly
And get lost
In the busy day.

AND IN THE NEW YEAR!!! Happy New Year 🙂 xox

You can follow the next posts in these series here:

December~17~Penny  
December~18~Karen
December~19~ Sue
December~20~Leigh
December~21~Barbara
December~22~Shree
December~23~Jen
December~24~Julianne Victoria

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25 thoughts on “12 Days of Xmas: Self-love

  1. When I am asked to come back to humanity and be part of the collective, I can step back into being human by unifying my body and my spirit. I have been very spiritual for a long time and have enjoyed many spiritual pursuits. Whenever I do shamanic work more intensely, I sooner or later start to dwell into spiritual realms. So much so that I become disconnected from my immediate environment. Part of my shadow is that I do not want to belong, live or be on this planet. Yet I know deep down, in my heart of hearts, that I want to be here, that I need to be here, and that my presence is required in many different ways than just shamanic work. So I am learning to love my body, my emotions, my physical self in a conscious way.

    ~ This really spoke to me and I am certain many others who read this post. This was extremely helpful! Wonderful post!

    love and light to you,

    xx Linda

  2. I love this and I know that 2014 is going to be your best year yet! You have the strength and Light inside you to make all your dreams come true! You only have to have a faith and to believe in this wondrous universe! Blessings to you! 🙂

  3. I love the message friend. It is important to be aware of ourselves, and our energy, I don’t have much problem with that. I did give myself completely to a man and was disappointed but still it was all good and on me.

    When you get in that spirit realm and need some grounding…chocolate. 😉

    I love the self- love exercise. Believe it or not I have always more or less done all those things. I guess its self-petting.

    I knew you would share a special and magical insight!

    Thank you so much for contributing, for being my friend and for our tracking session together last year.

    Namaste
    ✿ღ✿ღ.¸¸ღ♫*¨`*•..¸ƸӜƷ ✿ღ ✫❀
    Sindy

    • Yes that’s exactly it, ‘be aware of ourselves, and our energy’, not sure how I got on skipping that one… But guess what, our bodies are always their to remind us. We may skip the messages from the spirit but there’s nooo way we can skip when the message comes from our body – tough lesson learnt 🙂
      I really enjoyed working with you, and I always enjoy interacting with you. You are a lovely playful spirit, just like the blue butterflies. ♥ xox

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  5. Hello! Catching up on the 12 Days of Christmas…
    I am enjoying the posts so far…and it’s off to a great start…from the Wise men, to the Magic of Christmas and now to Self-love.

    I understand and have been told that I give too much…and that I should learn to receive. Here’s the thing..I *feel* like I have set up my boundaries and I have learned to say No….though…alright…I do feel guilty (not as much as before I will hasten to add) when I do say no…sometimes I give in…most times I let the little guilty voice play till it gets fed up…then it stops..lol

    It seems so surreal that you lose yourself to spiritual realms…it’s quite cool, in fact! I usually just want to get lost in my cave (that would be my room)…and just…do whatever..it doesn’t matter. However, there usually comes a point when I feel a little agitated and so need to interact with people…

    Thanks so much for sharing…specially the boundaries thing..because it’s reminding that I really shouldn’t feel guilty in saying no!

    • We r all catchin up these days 🙂 I’m also travellin…
      Yeah guilt is a killer! But I figured out that if I am aligned with my heart and if Im coming from the place of innervsilence there’s no guilt. But like you said, it’s also practice, practicing to say no and feel it’s ok.
      Being partly lost in different realms is not cool 😦 It’s not constructive work and it’s sucking your life energy away… But luckily I picked up on it soon enough and made some tough but quick decisions. And things got better fast.
      Wishing you wonderful relaxing holidays with friends and family xox

      • Wow..I never realised that the different realms could do that! I would feel a little sad and “left out” when I hear of some of those I know personally telling stories of this and that experiences…but you know…you’re right…if it doesn’t serve a purpose then it’s just using up your energy! Thank you!! 😀

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  7. I relate so much to your post, so so very much,It took me so long to really heal, and Love of myself, for I was brought up with certain notions I was never good enough, too thin, and so this unworthiness over takes your subconscious as you dislike your very body, the shell we are living in..

    Like you often I felt even as a child, I never belonged, and Longed to be somewhere else, as I would took longingly up at the stars, knowing with that ‘Knowing’ we were not from here.. And yet here we were struggling with our emotions stuck inside ourselves…
    So Loved your poem too… and big smiles as even up to a few years ago I was still doing daily affirmations to my reflection as I told myself I loved me… 🙂

    Brilliant post .. Love and Light and Christmas Blessings as I catch up 🙂 Hugs Sue x

    • Hi Sue, thanks so much for such a personal and touching comment. My thing with a body is that I simply ignore it… I like to live like a free spirit, always struggling with how much my body limits me, i.e. Body = limitation for me. So instead of feeling gratitude for my beautiful and healthy body, I always resented it and didn’t appreciate any attention or compliments related to it. But guess what happens when you take it for granted… Thanks for reminding me of power and importance of gratitude with your Xmas post 🙂
      Many blessings to you and yours for this holidays season! Love xox

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  11. love it…well i am uber happy we connected in the physical in 2013 and i look forward to more sharing, growing, expanding, learning, connecting, and loving in 2014. lots of love sister, aleya

  12. Whenever I see a brave woman, I have to applaud her 😉 Thank you for being YOU! Merry Christmas! Looking forward to all the self-love and all the love exchanges that will happen in 2014! Most of all, I want to savor these last precious days of 2013. I can relate to your words, ” Part of my shadow is that I do not want to belong, live or be on this planet.” Wow, it’s amazing how we still manage to “showing up” in written word, and be present in the places that call to us to expand into them. Thank you, and your friends, for demonstrating collaboration, friendship, and support. I love seeing how you support one another. I feel better having read your words. 🙂 I feel inspired 😉

    • I totally loved your post about love, happiness, friends and family, and the beautiful pics!
      Thanks for visiting back, and happy new year too. Hope it will bring you even more positive experiences 🙂 xox

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